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A New Answer to an Old Question

Sometimes a schedule lets you down.

Especially, in my opinion, a meal schedule.

Actually, I guess the schedule has not really let me down.

But an empty pantry often has.

Our breakfast schedule is really not the problem.

But dinner?

That guy’s a real pain in the rear sometimes.

And it is that pain-in-the-rear-daily-question of “what’s for dinner?” that brings me to my point.

Ever so slowly.

I read a post by my friend where she discussed feeding her children cereal for dinner.

We do that sometimes.

Eat cereal for dinner.

As long as the milk is cold, you know.

And I remember the Wickstrum family would have nights where every family member would fend for themselves – I think they called it Root Hog or Die.

But our family consists primarily of children who are just a little too young to completely be allowed to fend for themselves.

So on nights when I am tired or running late or the wind is blowing we have created our own form of fending for yourself.

We call it

Mother May I?

Everyone is allowed to roam the kitchen area, look at the choices and then ask, “Mother, may I eat ______?”

To which I usually answer, “Yes!”

The kids think it’s a game.

I think it’s a miracle.

Mother, may I have a nutella sandwich with a side of pickles?

Mother, may I have plain spaghetti noodles and cherries?

Mother, may I have oatmeal and Gatorade?

Mother, may I eat cheese and crackers and a Hershey kiss?

Yes, you may!

It’s a pretty versatile game

and it makes your kids think you’re awesome

when the truth is

you are either too lazy or too poor to hit the store and make a real meal.

25 Comments

  • seriousbethy

    Finally tried it! I was actually pretty proud of my kiddos. The final buffet ended up being three (that's including my plate) variations of: popcorn, snap pea crisps, cheese, honey granola cookie, dill pickle, apple slices, roast beef slices, edamame and trail mix. I guess though, since these are the things I give them for snacks, they were just having a gigantic snack! They loved it! The nicest part was the no complaining.

  • tiffany p.

    I have to admit that I do not enjoy dinner planning and think of it as a burden. I don't think of it as lazy though, who can come up with a "new" meal that everyone likes and I have all the ingredients for every night, 365 nights of the year, year after year, going on sixteen of them now!!!!!

  • Mommy2EandS

    I love this! We have leftover night and call it “buffet night” (which we totally stole from a friend and you can totally steal from us!) but our kids are a little too young to really fend for themselves so we offer them several choices of what’s left in the fridge or the staples of our pantry.

  • Helen Rutrough

    We had those fend for yourself nights too! My kids especially loved it and Leigh Ann just mentioned them the other day. Makes great memories without a lot of effort!

    • LaceyKeigley

      That's neat.
      Still cannot believe you are a grandmother- twice!!
      How I wish my mom could know that and share all that with you guys!

  • Sarah D.

    i suppose mother may i might be a bit kinder and caring then root hog or die. none the less, my children will def be little root hoggers.

  • Allie P

    This is just brilliant. Probably the best idea since Starbucks!!
    I can't wait to try it. And nutella will most definitely be requested.

    • LaceyKeigley

      I guess I probably do not really believe you here Allie.
      But maybe to your kids it will be cooler than Starbucks.
      Unless they have been allowed to try a strawberries and cream drink.

  • fraukuech

    This is a great idea! Storing this away in my to-do-when-i-have-kids list. I let Davis pick his own lunch everyday. Chicken nuggets, always.

    • LaceyKeigley

      Oh man.
      All these years Maggie.
      All these years.
      A comma changes everything.
      I always wondered what in the world a \”root hog\” was and what it had to do with eating.
      If I gave myself over to it, I would be lying on the ground in fits of laughter.

  • seriousbethy

    "it makes your kids think you're awesome when the truth is you are either too lazy or too poor to hit the store and make a real meal." I LOVE THIS. I love anything that makes my kids think I'm awesome. We are doing this tonight. Is there a rule that there has to be one healthy element? I'm afraid Liam's would be, "mother may I have a cookie and a cookie and a cookie?" Do you hide certain food items before you make the announcement? I'm so interested to see how this goes. Will report back their choices tomorrow.

    • LaceyKeigley

      Can\’t wait to hear what your kids choose.
      Sometimes I do put out ground rules – like the basic \”one fruit or vegetable required\”.
      Sometimes I just cross my fingers and hope for the best.
      And- there are times – that I actually answer \”no\” to the request. They seldom seem deterred and just keep on asking anyway!